Preparing your daughter emotionally for boarding
POSTED January 7 2025 , Boarding
Starting boarding school is an exciting milestone, but it can also feel daunting. Preparing your daughter emotionally is as important as packing her bags. At St Mary’s, one of the premier girls boarding schools in Perth, we emphasise open communication, supportive relationships and thoughtful programs to help girls navigate this transition confidently.
Talking about the changes
Begin by discussing what boarding life will look like. Highlight the exciting opportunities – new friendships, independence, and unique experiences – while acknowledging the challenges like homesickness and adjusting to new routines. Frame the conversation positively, reassuring her that it’s normal to feel a mix of emotions.
Be open to her questions and concerns, no matter how small. Listening and validating her feelings will build trust and show her that she has your support. If possible, share personal stories or examples of times you’ve faced change and grown stronger through it.
Building confidence and reassurance
Help your daughter feel confident by focusing on her strengths. Remind her of times she adapted to new situations successfully, whether it was starting at a new school or joining a sports team. Celebrate her resilience and ability to make friends.
Practising small steps toward independence at home can also boost her confidence. Encourage her to make decisions, manage a small budget or pack for a weekend trip. These activities are excellent steps in boarding school preparation, reinforcing her ability to handle responsibilities away from home.
Activities to foster readiness
Engaging in pre-boarding activities can ease the transition:
- Tour the school together: Visiting the boarding house and meeting staff, including her House Mother, can make the environment feel more familiar.
- Connect with peers early: The Perth Pal Program pairs new boarders with day students and their families before the term begins. This connection often transforms into a comforting friendship, as the girls bond during shared activities like sleepovers at each other’s homes.
- Big Sister, Little Sister Program: Pairing younger boarders with older mentors provides an anchor for new students. These relationships, fostered through fun outings and activities, help girls settle in and feel supported.
Coping with homesickness
Feeling homesick is natural, but with the right tools, your daughter can manage it successfully. St Mary’s Boarding House Mothers are experts in creating a nurturing environment and are always available to lend a listening ear.
Encourage her to bring comforting reminders of home, such as family photos, favorite snacks, or a cherished blanket. Writing letters home or keeping a journal can also help her process her emotions.
At St Mary’s, one of the most supportive girls boarding schools in WA, students are never alone. The friendships forged through the Perth Pal and Big Sister, Little Sister programs provide a vital sense of connection. Sharing experiences with peers who understand what she’s going through can make all the difference.
Encouraging independence
Boarding school is an opportunity for your daughter to grow into a capable and independent individual. You can foster this growth by gradually stepping back while maintaining emotional closeness.
Teach her practical skills like laundry, organising her schedule and simple cooking tasks. Celebrate her achievements, no matter how small, to show her that you’re proud of her progress.
Encourage her to seek support from her House Mother or peers if she needs it. Knowing that she has a network of caring adults and friends at St Mary’s will help her feel secure.
A caring community
At St Mary’s, your daughter won’t just join a school – she’ll become part of a community that feels like family. From the thoughtful Perth Pal and Big Sister, Little Sister programs to the dedicated care of the House Mothers, she’ll have all the support she needs to thrive.
By preparing her emotionally, equipping her with coping tools, and reminding her of the incredible community waiting for her, you’ll help your daughter approach this new chapter with courage and optimism.